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Once upon a fake prada fairy bag ebay time a new baby named Me came into this world quickly feeling she had fake prada fairy bag ebay made a wrong turn.  This wasn’t at all what she thought she’d signed up for prior to coming back to earth.  Sensing she was so different from fake prada fairy bag ebay her parents yet absorbing all of who they were, while believing on some level they were all the fake prada fairy bag ebay same.  Because her mother’s birthing experience was difficult, Me’s father gave her the middle of the night bottle.  Some 30 years later as her father told the fake prada fairy bag ebay story of how she wanted to play rather than “get down to business” so he could go back to bed, she finally knew why she’d always felt like a burden who never did anything right.  How incompetent are you, if you don’t take your bottle correctly?  These tiny, yet pivotal instances created her beliefs about who fake prada fairy bag ebay she was and how important it was to please others, especially those closest to fake prada fairy bag ebay you.

Until Me was 2 years old, her sense of success or failure/right or wrong depended solely upon her parents’ reaction to her every move eliminating any sense of her self.  Shortly before her second birthday, “NO” became a staple of her vocabulary.  Her first attempts to fake prada fairy bag ebay separate herself from her parents were met with strong resistance.  Even though the fake prada fairy bag ebay internal force was strong for her to resist, the results of resisting were often physically and fake prada fairy bag ebay emotionally painful.  Retreating into the fake prada fairy bag ebay fetal position to be invisible seemed like a good way to fake prada fairy bag ebay dodge the pain.  Committing to fake prada fairy bag ebay be as good and perfect as possible so as not to fake prada fairy bag ebay incur the wrath of her father while really believing she was truly a fake prada fairy bag ebay bad person (why else would her father punish and criticize her so frequently?) became cornerstones for her way of being in the world.  Her sister, born when Me was three, responded to being told “No!” with immediate defiance quickly strengthening her determination to do it anyway.  The wrath her sister provoked resulting in terrible punishments increased Me’s resolve to shrink even further out of the way.

Me’s earliest childhood memories were of losing any attention from fake prada fairy bag ebay her parents while gaining new restrictions upon her new born sister’s arrival home from fake prada fairy bag ebay the hospital and being told she was going to college with a fake prada fairy bag ebay full scholarship because they wouldn’t be able to pay those expenses – ingrained in her that she was on her own.  And, she won a fake prada fairy bag ebay full scholarship to college so her parents never had to fake prada fairy bag ebay pay a dime.  Oh, the power of scarcity and people pleasing programming.

As Me started school, her desire to fake prada fairy bag ebay please her teachers as much as her parents remained quite strong.  Her first report card in first grade was all A’s starting a fake prada fairy bag ebay trend that would continue until she took chemistry in high school.  Being told she would be fake prada fairy bag ebay grounded for six weeks for a C was strong motivation to fake prada fairy bag ebay continue her perfect record.  Very early on, Me’s father rewarded her straight A’s with money for fake prada fairy bag ebay each such report card cementing her belief that she only received and fake prada fairy bag ebay deserved money for being perfect.  That ensured the fake prada fairy bag ebay deep difficulty she had with receiving money for any work she ever did because, of course, she wasn’t perfect.

The Victim’s Beliefs and Behaviors

Beliefs that fuel the victim’s view were strong in Me’s life starting with those new born nights with her father and fake prada fairy bag ebay her bottle – being powerless, vulnerable, criticized, judged, punished, fearful and fake prada fairy bag ebay controlled. Victims crave attention, understanding, and nurturing, not only in the fake prada fairy bag ebay physical sense but also in the spiritual sense, having lost the fake prada fairy bag ebay connection to themselves, loved ones and spirit.   Feelings of worthlessness, dependence, fear, anxiety, stress, burn out, isolation, anger, jealousy and fake prada fairy bag ebay betrayal abound.  Victims frequently use “should, have to, must, supposed to, need to” reflecting the fake prada fairy bag ebay belief that they have no choices. They expect to make mistakes, mistrust themselves and fake prada fairy bag ebay others, and feel threatened by the bounty of life while believing there’s never enough of anything.  Victims focus outwardly, looking to some one (a lover, parent, cult leader, guru, etc.), some thing or some place to bring them peace and happiness.    Being unable to fake prada fairy bag ebay receive, they give from a place of emptiness spawned by a fake prada fairy bag ebay strong “need to be needed”.   From these beliefs come controlling, blaming, retaliatory, manipulative, judgmental, reactive, and fake prada fairy bag ebay co-dependent behaviors. One of adult Me’s huge “aha’s’ was how her need to fake prada fairy bag ebay be needed led to attracting needy people into her life.  A perfect vibrational match!  Another huge “aha” for fake prada fairy bag ebay adult Me was when her therapist asked her why she felt she had fake prada fairy bag ebay go across the country to be at her mother’s side during brain surgery and she replied “because she is my mother and she’s having brain surgery” and she didn’t know she had a choice.  At the fake prada fairy bag ebay time, Me was severely depleted, possibly heading toward a hospital stay herself if she didn’t start taking care of her – a completely new concept.  Making arrangements with her mother’s doctor and fake prada fairy bag ebay friends to inform her if anything went wrong with her mother’s surgery, Me, age 43, for fake prada fairy bag ebay the first time chose herself first by staying home.

Parents’ greatest gift

Me’s parents each gave up the work they loved due to – her father’s angry reaction to fake prada fairy bag ebay rejection of his proposal to improve efficiency in his workplace; her mother’s response to her new husband’s order to quit based on his jealousy of the men in her workplace.  The loss of their dreams resulted in both of them being angry, unhappy and fake prada fairy bag ebay unhealthy for the rest of their lives.   Seeing the lack of joy in her parent’s lives touched a knowing deep in Me’s heart that life wasn’t meant to be joyless and painful.  In fact, it was just the opposite.  In her late teens, Me made her decision to fake prada fairy bag ebay live life joyfully and easily.  She later saw this fake prada fairy bag ebay realization of what belonged to her to create in her life as the fake prada fairy bag ebay greatest gift her parents could have given her.

Journey to Vitality

Me left her 13-year marriage at age 33, 9 months after being transferred to fake prada fairy bag ebay New York City from Texas by the company for whom she worked.  Waking up one morning with clarity that fake prada fairy bag ebay her marriage was not where she wanted to be as her future unfolded, she left 3 months later choosing to fake prada fairy bag ebay give her husband residential custody of their daughter because Me felt she was a fake prada fairy bag ebay terrible mother believing her husband was much better equipped to fake prada fairy bag ebay be the full time parent.  Me thought of getting her cat back from fake prada fairy bag ebay friends as she started her new life when the “NO” from every cell of her being was deafening and unanimous:  “You have spent your whole life focused on everyone else, it’s now time to focus solely on you and find out who you are!!”

The six years that followed before Me’s daughter came to live with her were pivotal.  Seeing a fake prada fairy bag ebay therapist who instantly helped her see that the constant pain in her neck symbolized looking up from fake prada fairy bag ebay the street at the Empire State Building spire for 33 years thus mirroring how she had fake prada fairy bag ebay always looked up to everyone else believing they were much better than fake prada fairy bag ebay she at everything.  Me’s goal was to fake prada fairy bag ebay experience feeling her feelings that were blocked as solid as a fake prada fairy bag ebay frozen car engine.  She could only describe herself as being “upset” when she didn’t like the way something was going.  Her therapist revealed that Me’s face looked like she’d won the lottery when she talked of being upset.  That was her “Merry Sunshine” face – a true product of the “looking good family”. Because Me’s father was a fake prada fairy bag ebay rage-aholic she was terrified of feeling, much less expressing, her anger.   She understood how someone could be fake prada fairy bag ebay a mass murderer fearing she, too, was a heartbeat away from fake prada fairy bag ebay randomly opening fire on innocent people.  Thus, it was critical for her to keep those feelings at bay.  The support of a women’s therapy group gave Me reassurance that fake prada fairy bag ebay once she recognized that connection to rage, there were healthier ways to fake prada fairy bag ebay disperse that energy.

Me’s decision to fake prada fairy bag ebay stay home while her mother had brain surgery turned out to fake prada fairy bag ebay be a turning point in her life.  Choosing Me’s health and fake prada fairy bag ebay well-being over her feelings of obligation toward her mother was the fake prada fairy bag ebay first time in her life she had ever chosen herself first.  That brought her journey to fake prada fairy bag ebay vitality up several notches, which is often the case when we step out of our comfort zone.

Within 6 months another turning point occurred that fake prada fairy bag ebay catapulted Me into other realms.  She received her first poor performance appraisal since she’d started working in the world some 24 years before.  She was devastated as success at school and fake prada fairy bag ebay work was always easy for her framing her sense of self worth, and fake prada fairy bag ebay now the moorings had collapsed under her quickly reviving the victim role once more.  As with most situations that fake prada fairy bag ebay first appear devastating, amazing gifts arise from the ashes.

A few weeks after her devastating appraisal, Me attended an fake prada fairy bag ebay Al-Anon meeting at her nephew’s suggestion. The speaker, having just received notice that fake prada fairy bag ebay their house was being foreclosed due to her husband’s alcoholism, spoke on faith.  As several other women repeated their same experience, Me felt some itching around her waist.  Walking to fake prada fairy bag ebay the car, her fury quickly rose as she wondered why those women were allowing these men to fake prada fairy bag ebay ruin their lives.  When Me got home hives – a physical manifestation of anger – covered her body from shoulders to knees.  Her awareness of how being a fake prada fairy bag ebay victim can negatively impact and ultimately ruin lives was expanding.

Going the fake prada fairy bag ebay next evening to an Adult Children of Alcoholics aka ACOA meeting, Me experienced a fake prada fairy bag ebay sense of comfort and connection within a group of total strangers unlike anything she’d ever known.  It was as if every person in the room grew up in her family.  Those meetings provided the fake prada fairy bag ebay outline of the puzzle where she could place all the pieces she’d gotten in therapy.  So many things in her life were finally making sense!

Another huge revelation came to fake prada fairy bag ebay Me when the speaker at another ACOA meeting referred to that fake prada fairy bag ebay program as spiritual not religious.  Me, never knowing there was a fake prada fairy bag ebay difference, instantly knew that spirituality was what had been missing from fake prada fairy bag ebay the first 44 years of her life.  Over the fake prada fairy bag ebay next twenty years Me explored many spiritual traditions and metaphysical perspectives.  She took from fake prada fairy bag ebay each what resonated with her creating a framework for living a fake prada fairy bag ebay life of vitality.

So what does a life of Vitality look and feel like?  A deep connection to fake prada fairy bag ebay the Oneness of all life, supporting the trust one has in herself/himself and fake prada fairy bag ebay the abundance of the Universe. Honoring oneself and others with love, nurturing, kindness and fake prada fairy bag ebay caring.  Asking and listening to one’s body, mind and fake prada fairy bag ebay spirit to determine the needs for rest and activity. Experiencing the fake prada fairy bag ebay freedom of always having choices and following one’s heart in making those choices, while taking full responsibility for fake prada fairy bag ebay the results without attachment to what other people will think. Knowing one deserves and fake prada fairy bag ebay can receive all the Universe has to offer allowing them to fake prada fairy bag ebay detach from people, places, things, outcomes and expectations. Standing in trust, exuding joy, peace, ease and fake prada fairy bag ebay gratitude, knowing that one’s potency comes from the centered place inside.

Me’s journey to Vitality will continue to unfold and change.  Each step offers greater possibilities, more consciousness and fake prada fairy bag ebay grand adventures beyond her imagining as she continues to live from fake prada fairy bag ebay choice by choosing Me first.